For example, it turns out that Pavel took 200,000 from Ilya, Ilya spent his time and nerves waiting for the debt, and it cost him another 100,000 (according to the feelings of loss). Adds up and we get the total amount of the debt of 300 thousand. After that, Ilya needs to understand what kind of relationship with Pavel or other people led him to such a loss, that is, for what exactly he paid these 300. Forced or consciously, we make mistakes in our relationships with people, as a result, both they and we lose vitality, connections are tracked. Having done this, Ilya deliberately gives the stuck money to Pavel or through Pavel to the one to whom he owed and is freed from the black hole in his budget. When Ilya restores his integrity, money will come to him faster and easier.